We’ve all known the “Know it all” who generally doesn’t know what he’s talking about. Needless to say, people like this tend not to be very popular.
My GS, not yet 9 years old, is a Know It All. It annoys us no end and we can’t seem to get through to him that it is ok if he doesn’t know things. We’ve explained to him that it is all right to explain things to people, but it has to be truthful and honest information. A concept my GS seems not to understand, and unwilling to learn.
GS is ADHD, not diagnosed by a doctor because S doesn’t want him to be “labeled” ADHD. I don’t quite agree with him, but regardless of a proper diagnosis, we all know what GS’s problem is. Even if he was properly tested and diagnoses, we aren’t really sure what good that would do. Does knowing he has ADHD make it any easier? I’ve discussed this with S and he doesn’t want GS on drugs like ritalin, etc. He’s a disturbance in the class room, and is constantly in trouble for talking out of turn, getting out of his seat. etc.
It is a compulsion with him to speak when others are speaking, and it doesn’t matter what he says, it’s all a bunch of goofy ideas and misinformation, typical of a child’s imagination. If two adults are in conversation about something, GS chimes in with his nonsensical eight year old logic. We try to explain to him that it’s very nice he wants to help, but he really isn’t. We’ve told him that he’s simply too young to understand some things. He gets his feelings hurt and runs to his room, refusing to listen to anyone since “no one” is listening to his nonsense. Lately it is impossible to get him to listen to anything, but himself.
We’ve been dealing with him for nearly nine years and he has always been this way, but it has gotten so much worse as he’s gotten older. I see him interact with other children, and he doesn’t know how to approach other children, he tends to be bossy and pushy, and dare I say it, a little bit of a bully. I figure he’s doing this in compensation to his feeling that he doesn’t know anything and is stupid, but we are so far unable to teach him how to control his impulses.
Please, anybody out there who has dealt with this in their children, how do we get through to him? I need an instruction manual for the ADHD kid without drugs or expensive psychotherapy!